Tuesday, March 22, 2011

Feminists and Their Daughters: The Rooster Comes Home To Roost


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Why Do We Let Them Dress Like That?


Women of a liberated generation wrestle with their eager-to-grow-up daughters—      

 and their own pasts

By Jennifer Moses
....All of which brings me to a question: Why do so many of us not only permit our teenage daughters to dress like this—like prostitutes, if we're being honest with ourselves—but pay for them to do it with our AmEx cards?.....


I have a different theory. It has to do with how conflicted my own generation of women is about our own past, when many of us behaved in ways that we now regret. A woman I know, with two mature daughters, said, "If I could do it again, I wouldn't even have slept with my own husband before marriage. Sex is the most powerful thing there is, and our generation, what did we know?"
We are the first moms in history to have grown up with widely available birth control, the first who didn't have to worry about getting knocked up. We were also the first not only to be free of old-fashioned fears about our reputations but actually pressured by our peers and the wider culture to find our true womanhood in the bedroom. Not all of us are former good-time girls now drowning in regret—I know women of my generation who waited until marriage—but that's certainly the norm among my peers.
So here we are, the feminist and postfeminist and postpill generation. We somehow survived our own teen and college years (except for those who didn't), and now, with the exception of some Mormons, evangelicals and Orthodox Jews, scads of us don't know how to teach our own sons and daughters not to give away their bodies so readily. We're embarrassed, and we don't want to be, God forbid, hypocrites....
Still, in my own circle of girlfriends, the desire to push back is strong. I don't know one of them who doesn't have feelings of lingering discomfort regarding her own sexual past. And not one woman I've ever asked about the subject has said that she wishes she'd "experimented" more.
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We were telling you women this for years, yet there you were, mocking us and putting us down. Now you're starting to see the results and the hypocrisy of your decisions and mentality. You were warned but you didn't listen.

46 million babies aborted since Roe v. Wade, a divorce rate of at least 50%, sex in elementary schools, kids on psychotropic drugs, teenage pregnancy.... Yeah, more power to you feminists. The rooster has come home to roost. Its not all that, now is it? "Christian" moms, most of are no different than the world. You don't get off the hook because you were a label with "Christ" in it or you attend church.

Are you really concerned for your daughters who are growing up too fast? Do you really want to deal with the issues and get some solid wisdom on how to parent and how to have a solid marriage?

You want to do something? Start by growing up and being a responsible adult who thinks outside of her selfish wants, to her daughter's NEEDS. Get out of the high school popularity mentality. Stop living vicariously through your daughter or trying to make up for your absence. Grow up.

Maturity means we have to think outside of ourselves and what the possible results could be if we allow certain sinful behaviors (something the last two generations of women have utterly FAILED AT).

Love means we want and DO what is BEST for our daughters, not what they might want nor what we want through them (living vicariously through them). It means saying "no" early on to your daughter, establishing the authority and respect one must have as a parent, and training her (and yourself), to strive to live in a manner worthy of the Gospel. It means considering that others--friends, parents, future spouses, and your church---and the influence, good or bad, your decisions for your daughters will have on them.

A double-minded man (or woman) is unstable in all his (or her) ways, James 1 says. You cannot continue in the "Your not the boss of ME!" mindset and then be truly concerned about your daughters. The Bible tells us how to parent and what our roles are to be within marriage. Time to start listening to the Creator and do it HIS way, or face the horrific consequences.

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